Like love, most of us look for happiness in all the wrong places. Keep reading to find out where and how to seek happiness like this guy here.
1. Be financially independent
I'm not talking about being rich and living a lavish lifestyle here. I'm talking about being savvy with any amount of money one might possess. The concept of not spending more than you make and what you have left over goes into savings. Savings is one of the most significant components of being financially stable for many reasons. What if you have an accident and you're out of work for any period of time? How about needing to leave your job for unforeseen circumstances and needing a buffer? Or maybe it's a toxic relationship you need to escape. Whatever the reason, that rainy day fund will get you through it, and you'll have significantly less stress than you would if you were living paycheck to paycheck. Maybe you think you don't even make enough to pay your bills. What do you do then? Find a side hustle, which brings me to the next topic!
2. Find a hobby
A hobby can be something you do just for fun, or it can be a means to making some extra dough! I've always had side hustles, whether it be a craft, an MLM(multi-level-marketing), or a course to expand my knowledge and have a backup career. The most important thing here is that it should be something you enjoy, so it doesn't feel like a job(especially if it is technically your second or third job). Be it just a hobby or a way to make extra money; you're finding enjoyment, keeping yourself busy, learning something new, or investing in your future.
3. Understand that no one owes you anything
When you understand this concept, you have freedom! Freedom to make your own choices in any given area of your life. That means you work for what you have, and you feel a sense of gratitude and accomplishment for the rewards you receive. That is happiness in it and of itself. When you accept handouts or expect to be taken care of, you'll experience quite a disappointment in the expectation arena. You'll expect more and more and receive less and less. It's called greed.
4. Make yourself a priority
The most important thing you will ever invest in is yourself. God gives you one body on this journey to who knows where. Take care of it. This means nourishing your body with actual food and not processed junk. Stay physically active to keep your mind sharp and your body strong. Set goals for yourself and create affirmations. Take part in personal development and educate yourself. All of this combined will significantly improve your happiness. You won't have emotional ups and downs on the sugar rollercoaster, and you'll release unwanted toxins through sweating. Win-win!
5. Set healthy boundaries
Learn how to say no. It's easy to say yes to avoid hurting someone's feelings or because we feel obligated for whatever reason. However, if you don't want to do something but say yes out of obligation, it'll create resentment toward the person you're essentially helping. The problem here is you are the only person you should resent. You agreed to something you don't want to do or don't have time for, and now you're projecting your disdain onto someone else. That's not okay. Take responsibility for your life and say no. Boundaries are healthy and essential for asserting yourself and creating the life you want. It also builds confidence and lets people know you mean business. Please don't feel bad for the other person; they'll find someone else to help them, or they'll become a better planner. Their emergency is not your problem, and if they're mad at you for not helping, you might want to find a new friend.
6. Learn how to make decisions
Don't be wishy-washy. Make a decision and go with it. The more you ponder or weigh your options, the longer you remain stagnant. Don't get me wrong certain BIG decisions require a fair amount of deliberation, but what's the worst that can happen, you change your mind? Big flippin deal. Follow your gut, and everything will work in your favor. Take applying for jobs, for instance. You interview at three different companies and get a call back for all of them. That is amazing! They all want you! You can't decide which job to choose, though, and all three of the companies hired someone else in the meantime. On the other hand, you choose company B right away, and company C offers you a higher salary. Company A thinks you'll be a great asset, and they offer you even more than company C. BUT, you took way too long and ended up with debt because you couldn't make a damn decision. So if you're bad at making decisions, practice. Start small. Choose what you're going to have for dinner; dine-in or take-out? You chose take-out; what are you going to order? Pizza or Chinese? You can always make flashcards with two options and flip through them, choosing an answer. There's always a way to improve yourself!
7. Don't Pay Attention To The Opinions Of Others
This is the most important one of all. Stop paying attention to what other people are doing and certainly stop listening to their opinions of you or what they think you should do with your life. If you're following the crowd or allowing someone else to make decisions for you, you have some work to do. Put on those blinders, and start focusing on yourself! What works for one person may not work for another. It might be valuable to take someone's advice. If it doesn't work, though, don't force it. If it doesn't feel authentic to you, move on. Every single one of us has the ability to tap into our divine inner guidance. That guidance will always know what's best for you over anyone else. Trusting yourself will make you happier than anything else in the world. Trusting yourself means making the best decisions for you, setting healthy boundaries, making yourself a priority, having a sense of accomplishment, educating yourself, and making the money, honey! Read my post Stop Over-Thinking to see why you should learn to make quick decisions.
What's your ammo?