Updated: 7 days ago
Do you enjoy seeking revenge on others when you feel you've been wronged? If you're deviously laughing right now reminiscing about those who have crossed you or looked at you the wrong way, and you're sprouting little horns off the top of your head envisioning pain inflicted on these people, we have some work to do.
On the other hand, if you are someone who allows karma to take its course, you take what lesson you can from each encounter or situation. With that, you can move on knowing that what happened, happened for a reason. You know this was for your soul's growth, and all will be rectified by a higher power in the future.
I'll share with you why it's not such a good idea to seek revenge and instead, to hold your head high and choose the latter of the previous examples.
1. Like attracts like.
It’s the law of attraction. It’s quite simple, really; the intentions, energy, and actions you put out are exactly what you will receive back. Not only will they come back to you, but they will also be magnified. You’ve probably heard me mention The Secret by Rhonda Byrne before now. If you haven’t ordered the book, you probably should. Here’s your sign! Learn how the Law of Attraction is affecting your life today.
2. You’re creating bad karma for yourself.
This goes hand in hand with like attracting like, although it goes much deeper. Yes, it’s about to get real. Those devious little thoughts you wish upon someone else as revenge could turn up in your future to bite you in the rear, no matter how small the thought. So what do you do when those thoughts creep up, because let’s face it, we all have them from time to time. You know, the ones where you hope someone goes off the road into a ditch after they cut you off. Yes, those. Then all of a sudden, you regret it because the person could end up injured! I used to just apologize to the powers that be, but now I say, “cancel, cancel, cancel!” That’s a little trick I learned from my mentor Pat Longo whose book The Gifts Beneath Your Anxiety: Simple Spiritual Tools to Find Peace, Awaken the Power Within, and Heal Your Life by Pat Longo, you can grab here. I then add my apology and send them love and light for extra protection from stupidity. What? I’m human!
3. You're stunting your growth.
We are given the opportunity to see the lesson in every situation life throws our way. Choosing not to recognize the lesson presented to you will stunt your growth and repeatedly attract similar situations. Think about whether you hear yourself saying a variation of this phrase,”Why does this always happen to me?” I can tell you why. You’re not choosing to be the bigger person or to learn a valuable lesson from the situation.
4. You’re setting yourself up for a life of misery.
Yes, misery. I bet you didn't think of that now, did you? Who actually wakes up and decides to be unhappy every day? I hope no one. Believe it or not, our brains are hardwired to think negatively. It's your job to train your brain otherwise. These negative thoughts create emphasis on your enemy and not you or your goals. You're focusing on people and things outside of yourself when that energy could be way more valuable if spent on you.
5. You’re giving away your power.
You should be focusing on your goals, wants, and desires within yourself. I probably shouldn't have to tell you that its unfavorable to give away your power; however, obvious things are often overlooked. When you focus on revenge against others, you're giving them your power. In essence, you're allowing them to control your thoughts, emotions, actions, and reactions. Do you really want someone else in control of the direction of your life? I didn't think so.
6. You’re wasting time.
When you focus on other people, you’re taking valuable time away from enhancing your own life and attracting positive outcomes for yourself. Do you frequently say you don’t have time for a multitude of things? Then it would be best if you start by focusing on yourself instead of others.
7. You’re making excuses.
If you know my husband or someone like him, they'd be the first to tell you, "Excuses are like Assholes; everyone has one." Haha! It makes me laugh every time! I don't know about you, but I don't like having an excuse. When you make up an excuse, you lack accountability. When you lack accountability, you place blame. When you place blame, you give up your power. When you give up your power, you are putting someone else in control of your choices and decisions. I will say it once more; you are giving up control of your life.
The moral of this post is to focus on yourself, your life, and your goals. Stop focusing on other people and what they're doing. What they're doing doesn't or shouldn't affect you. If it does, you're allowing it to, and that's on you. Take the bull by the horns, hold yourself accountable and take control of your own life.
What’s your ammo?